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by Ron Kurtus

A total of 154 comments and questions have been sent in. They are listed according to date.



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General How do I develop good character? South Sudan
 
Responsible What does being responsible mean? Malaysia
 
Stealing I used to steal UK
 
Honesty What is a trustworthy marriage? Zimbabwe
 
Determination Family is against person's dreams Nigeria
 
Stealing Thinking of stealing since husband has poor job USA
 
Stealing Husband's boss preaches hell and brimstone USA
 
Stealing Student from China caught shoplifting USA
 
Franklin's Virtues Define temperance USA
 
Motivations to Change Character Most people only think of themselves Philippines
 

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How do I develop good character?

Topic: General

Question

August 13, 2011

Please, outline for me ways of developing good character? Thanks

- South Sudan

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Answer

There are a number of character traits that will help your individual performance. Some of these are working hard, doing a good job, being conscientious, and being courageous.

There are also positive character traits for dealing with other people. Some are to be honest, do not harm others, and to be helpful.

Finally, there are rules to follow to be a good member of your society and religion.

Realizing what is good behavior in each of those areas and following those values will help you be considered as a person with good character. And that will lead to success in what you do.

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What does being responsible mean?

Topic: Responsible

Question

April 27, 2011

I am doing a paper that relates to this topic and I would like to know further about being responsible means. Is being responsible can bring one to be success? Is being responsible person is more important than being successful person? How do you think that success is related to responsibility of a person?
I hope that I can get an acknowledgement from you soon. Thank you for your help.

Cindy - Malaysia

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Answer

A person who is responsible acknowledges his or her role in doing things. If something goes wrong, it means not making excuses. It is also feeling like you are in control of a situation as opposed to feeling you are a victim.

Being responsible means you are accountable. In a business or a job, the person in charge is responsible for what is done.

Taking responsibility means that you grow from what you do, as well as mistakes you make. It is a good character trait to have to help you become successful.

Successful people are usually responsible for their success.

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I used to steal

Topic: Stealing

Question

April 7, 2011

used to steal and now everyone in my class acuse me for missing propeties. What can I do?

- UK

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Answer

One of the biggest problems with stealing is that you can get a reputation of being a thief. Even if you no longer steal and are very honest, there still will be people who suspect you of being a thief, especially if something is missing.

You need to go out of your way to show you are honest. If something is missing, you may even offer to help find it or find who stole it.

It will take a long time to get your reputation back. But after a while others will forget, especially if he really show you are honest.

Best wishes on getting others to trust you again.

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What is a trustworthy marriage?

Topic: Honesty

Question

March 26, 2011

What is a trustworthy marriage or family spiritualy?

victor - Zimbabwe

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Answer

A trustworthy marriage is when each person trusts the other to be honest and honorable. When one person does not tell the truth or violates the marriage vow, the marriage is not trustworthy. However, if one asks for forgiveness, the trust can build over time.

Family spirituality can relate to good religious values, as well a good character and cooperation. You have a good spiritual family relationship when you are all at peace with each other, as well as yourself. There is the spirit of cooperation between husband and wife, as well as the children. You are all together for the good of the family.

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Family is against person's dreams

Topic: Determination

Question

February 19, 2011

if someone is determined to do one particular thing in life and that is not in support with all the members of his/her family and all his/her focus is on that particular thing to do in life what will he/she do.

Chisa - Nigeria

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Determination is often needed to achieve a specific goal. However, if that goal is not supported by members of the family, it presents a dilemma.

You have to understand their rationale and reasoning for not supporting the goal. Although in some cultures, the family has much influence on the direction a person should take, in these modern times young people like to try new things.

The best things is to ask the family members to have trust and allow you to try something different. Promise that if things do not work out, you can always change to their ideas.

In this way, it is a compromise instead of rebellion.

I assume that you have something you really want to do, so best wishes in achieving your dreams.

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Thinking of stealing since husband has poor job

Topic: Stealing

Question

December 14, 2010

I am angry at my husband and have contemplated stealing what I need. I have religious convictions that tell me its wrong, though. I only thought about it because I'm so angry at my husband. He works in a certain trade where he can start his own business and earn a lot of money, yet he makes every excuse not to bother. Instead he keeps working for this jerk that teakes advantage of him and although he's worked there for 15 years and has been the best worker the company has ever had, his boss took away his personal and sick days and holiday pay. I'm very angry. He has enough talent to work for himself. I know he can't just quit his job, but he makes excuses for not naming his business so that he can't get business cards and can't advertise in the better papers that reach more people. Us and our four kids are going without. I don't even have sheets on my bed, I go to the salvation army for my kids clothes, who are growing like weeks. I pick garbage from the side of the road to try to sell it. I'm so angry. He could do better, but it seems his loyalty is to his horrible boss then to his family! I've really thought about leaving him, maybe then he'd get his act together. I'm really sad. This isn't even me to think about such things as stealing. :(

nobody - USA

20850

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I think the big problem is that your husband doesn't realize his skills and can't picture himself in business for himself. Starting up your own business is a scary proposition, and it is probably easier to go through the same old routine at work.

Since his boss takes advantage of him, it is apparent that he is not getting any recognition or praise for the work he does. That just keeps his self-image down.

Here is an exercise you can try, if you can get some quiet time together. Get out a couple of pieces of paper and a pencil. Ask him what are some of the things he has really enjoyed doing in the past 10 years or so. Write them down. On another paper, tell him enjoyable times you have had and write them down. It doesn't have to be many.

Then under that list, ask him to tell some of the things he has done that he was proud of, especially at work. You can make a list of your accomplishments too. It doesn't have to be anything sensational. But it makes you think of things each of you has done.

Finally, ask him to tell you things he'd like to do in the next 5 years. You do the same.

Now, the whole idea of this is that when he looks at his list, he can realize, "Hey! I've got something going for myself!" It also points out where you two want to go in your lives.

Hopefully, this will get him thinking and perhaps give him some incentive.

As far as starting up his own business goes, it is not easy unless there is outside work available. Usually, you need some back-up money to get by until work comes in. But at the very least, your husband should look for another job where he will be appreciated.

For information on starting a business, see:
http://www.school-for-champions.com/entrepreneurship.htm

As far as stealing to get what you want goes, you know that it is not only wrong, but it is stupid. If you would get caught, it would be bad for your family.

But you shouldn't have to be be skimping and collecting garbage when your husband has a solid job. Hopefully, he is not drinking or gambling the money away.

Try the exercise I suggested. If your husband doesn't want to cooperate and doesn't seem to care about the condition of his family, then I don't know what to say.

Best wishes in improving your life and that of your family. Let me know how things turn out.

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Husband's boss preaches hell and brimstone

Topic: Stealing

Question

December 14, 2010

After reading all the comments on this website and the trouble people have gotten in, I've decided that I won't steal even though I need certain things. I'll save up some money and try to find a good deal for what I need. I'm still mad at my husband because he is putting us in this situation because of his lack of motivation when he could give us a really good life without even working to hard.

I have to add that my husband's boss is also to blame for his lack of money in the bank right now. Last October in 09, he got appendicities and he was out of work for 6 weeks. His boss didn't even help him. My husband used his summer vacation time(thats the only time he gets for family, but no sick or personal or holiday pay days) After his week of vacation was up, we were on our own. His boss is a Sunday School teacher and preaches hell and brimstone to people. We drained our savings and my husband is bitter because after 15 years of working for this man, his boss forgot about him and showed no care. He makes millions of dollars a year and my husband is a big part of him making that money, but he couldn't even help him when it counted. My husband was also sick again with a possible stroke and was out of work for 3 days. His boss showed NO mercy once again. We lost 1,000 from him being out of work. My husband did not have a stroke, it is an eye issue, but he's better now.
I just don't know what to do. We can't keep going on like this.

At least finding this website has helped me decide to stay out of trouble. Its wrong morally anyway. Thank you and I would appreciate any words of wisdom you have to offer our family of 6.

nobody - USA

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Answer

It is good to realize that stealing is not worth the consequences to you or your family. You need to be brave and strong to help keep your family together and healthy. It shows that you are someone important and worth while.

Obviously, your husband's boss is not someone who practices what he preaches. He probably is a very self-centered person who uses his position in his church and at work to show his power over others. Pray for him. He'll need it in the end.

I don't think your husband's problem is the lack of motivation, because he seems to be working hard at his job. Instead, he has his priorities wrong. Family must come first over this job. Unless his boss has some hold on him -- perhaps through his religious preaching, both in the church and at the job.

Don't expect the boss to help your husband or anyone. Your husband must realize that his loyalty to this job is ruining his health and destroying his family. You can't get him to act by nagging him, but you can help to open his eyes if he truly loves you and his children. Perhaps then he will overcome the hold his boss has on him.

I wish you the best and hope that your husband will maintain his health, as well as to see the light and get a different job.

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Student from China caught shoplifting

Topic: Stealing

Question

November 28, 2010

Umm, I am an international student from China, And today I was caught because I put something into my pocket when I was in Walmart, and I didn't mean to do that, that stuff is worth about $15, when I was try to get out the walmart, the employee stopped me and take me to the backroom, then they call the police, I said sorry again and again, then the police take me to the police station, then my friend come here and pay $500 to pick me out, and I need to go to court next Friday. I am so scared that will I lose my student visa and have to stop my study here? or what will be the punishment?

- USA

20752

Answer

It is highly unusual for someone shoplifting a $15 item to be taken to the police station and even more unusual to require $500 for bail. Perhaps they are extra strict in that community.

Typically, a person who is arrested for shoplifting will be simply given a warning or perhaps a fine, especially if it is a first offense. Since you had to pay $500 to get out, I am not so sure what they will do.

The best thing to do is to go to your counselor at school, especially concerning international students, and ask for advice. You might need representation (such as a lawyer). At the very least, the counselor should be familiar with the laws in the area.

I hope everything works out for you and that it will not impact your student visa. At the very least, it is a good lesson.

Best wishes for you in this situation. Let me know how things turn out.

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Define temperance

Topic: Franklin's Virtues

Question

October 20, 2010

can u clearly define these 13 steps for example "temperance- eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation" what does that mean

stephanie - USA

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Answer

Temperance means that you should not overeat. Some people eat so much that they become sleepy or dull minded. Likewise, it means that you can have an alcoholic drink in a social situation, but you should not drink so much that you become drunk.

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Most people only think of themselves

Topic: Motivations to Change Character

Question

October 9, 2010

this is best for people how change of value of life because all most people are self only

jose - Philippines

20513

Answer

Yes, it is true that many people think only of themselves. Being considerate of others is a valuable character trait.

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