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Poor Winner
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How can I avoid being a poor loser?
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August 10, 2007
Passed the quiz on how not to be a poor winner.
My big problem is that I'm a poor loser. I get really mad and it can last a day or two. How can I overcome this and just enjoy the game? Also, how might I deal with a poor winner?
Mark - USA
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When you lose a game or competition, who do you get mad at? Your opponent? Or are you simply angry that you lost?
What you should do with that energy is to use it to analyze why you lost and then learn from the situation, so that you will do better the next time. I've gone through games or competitions in my head and saw areas where I could have done things differently and gained an advantage.
Obviously, if you played someone who was a superior player, your chances of winning are low. But if you played your best and gave the guy a good game, then there is nothing to be angry about. In fact, you can feel good about yourself in defeat.
It isn't the outcome of the game that is as important as how well you play. If you don't try hard and perform poorly, then it is ground to be angry at yourself. You tell yourself, "Never play so poorly again."
The best attitude toward a competition is to have the other person push you to perform above your abilities. THAT is fun, whether you win or lose.
As far as dealing with a poor winner goes, simply congratulate the person. If he continues to gloat and act like a jerk, you can just be like most everyone else and avoid playing with him again.
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