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March 13, 2006
hi my name is natasha and i wanted to let you all know ur messages realy touched me i defintly got feedback from them and realize i dont have to be in constant pressure or feel bad about my self. i am talented and should think positive of my self. i just wanted to know in life as we grow up how do we deal wit bigger issues such as love and boyfriends being beautiful school, work? thank you for your advice.
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Thanks for the feedback. I'm glad the messages helped you. Yes, you ARE talented and have a lot going for you. Feeling bad or feeling good about yourself is a choice. Having positive thoughts about yourself always feels better.
Note that if you feel good about yourself, know what you are good at, and look like you enjoy life, issues like boyfriends are a lot easier. Of course, no relationship is perfect, but girls that are sure of themselves are able to handle things better than those who have self-doubts. They seem to have a glow about them that others notice. I am sure you have that potential.
Best wishes in achieving your dreams.
Emotions take over
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July 9, 2005
Whomever this may concern,
I know that this isn't a clinic (been there, done that), but I would like to know if you have any suggestions. I am a sixteen year old female with quite a few issues at home, witch school, and as of recently with friends.I can definitely say that I let my emotions completely take over. I recognize and agree with the statement posted on your site, " its not what happens to you, its what you do about it", however, being diagnosed with depression really limits my ability. I feel as though there is little hope and that all of my anxiety, fear, and pessimism is ruining the lives of everyone I encounter! I really feel pretty helpless and whenever I look at these kinds of websites, it makes feeling better seem like an extremely easy task, when in reality it isnt. I just would like to know what suggestions you have for people who's lives have sort of already been taken ahold of by emotions
Thanks,
Ashley
Ashley - USA
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There are a number of factors in play. At age sixteen, you are still going through changes where the emotions can go up and down. For some it is more than in others. Things usually will level out in a few years. Realizing you are more apt to have emotional extremes, you can be aware of the situation and try to catch yourself an control it.
One thing that can help is to spend 10 to 15 minutes a day in silence or meditation. Just relax without any music sounds or activities. Another thing is to write out your thoughts and feelings in a journal. Some do it in a blog, but you normally don't want others to see your private thoughts. You can write in a dialog, as if discussing your feelings with another person. Both of these methods can take some of the inner tensions from you and can help in the control of your emotions.
Depression is a tough problem to solve, because often you don't feel like doing the things that would help you. If you've been diagnosed with depression, you've probably been recommended to take anti-depression medication. Typcially, a person can get control of depression within a year or so, through medication and counseling. But it also takes hard work in changing the way you think.
Part of all of this is the attitude you take toward things. Pessimism does not help you get better or to cope. You've got to try to play it cool and just "go with the flow", as they say.
A philosophy we have is called the Daily Ritual of Champions:
1. First of all, every day you should think of all the blessings you have and then appreciate those blessings. You can give thanks for even the littlest thing. Even look at some problem at school and be thankful it isn't worse. Or maybe it could be an opportunity.
2. Next, take care of yourself and do your best in what you do. Take care of your health. Avoid toxic thoughts. Seek to learn. Do your best. Be courageous.
3. And finally, try to give back. Seek to help others enjoy their lives. This takes the focus off your problems and puts energy toward making things better for others.
By following this philosophy, it can help you overcome your emotional roller-coaster and your depression.
I hope these ideas help. I am sure that since you want to overcome your challenges, you will. Best wishes, and let me know how things turn out.
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