by Ron Kurtus
Readers have sent in a total of 32 comments and questions on Communication issues. They are listed according to date.
You can read them to further your understanding of the subject.
|What is meant by "incommunicado"?||General||India|
|People call me stupid when I talk||General||United Arab Emirates|
|Froze up when speaking to a guy in class||General||USA|
|Don't know how talk to my partner||General||USA|
|Term for reading eyes||Reading Eyes||USA|
|Keeping open mind toward other people||Basics||USA|
|Wants job in communication||Basics||Cambodia|
|Frequency components present in signal||Basics||india|
|Engineer wants to communicate better||General||India|
|Left or right?||Reading Eyes||UK|
|Wants people to listen||General||Canada|
|How to communicate if we cannot talk?||Basics||singapore|
|Wants to improve communication skills||General||India|
|Disadvantages of non-verbal communication||General||USA|
|How can I convince other people?||General||India|
What is meant by "incommunicado"?
January 23, 2006
What is meant by "incommunicado"?. Please give me a detailed explanation.
vivek - India (9769)
Incommunicado means without the means or right to communicate. For example a prisoner could be held incommunicado or without the right to communicate with anyone.
People call me stupid when I talk
December 14, 2005
i have something problem in my communicating in other poeple
i feel a shame when they talk at me ...
i dont know whats the problem with my character
id been confused by my self and its not easy for me to improve my self
because...they said that i am stupid but i dont believe that i am what
they expected ....
but i did not give up yeah i accept what i am today .. but i believe for tommorow ...
i dont know how to improve my self its a big big question ....for me its defficult
to understand whats is they called the real life between the other people
that they know already ur behioral status ....
just help me how to improve my self ......
fitchpatrick - United Arab Emirates (9380)
Consider the wise man. He does not talk much and try to show how smart he is. Rather, he asks questions and listens. But this takes much discipline and is really more difficult than telling others what comes into your mind.
Some people have strong voices and are able to speak so others will listen. But most of us are not like that, so it is necessary to improve the way we communicate with others.
You have an advantage on the others that you try to talk to, because you are trying to improve yourself. Unfortunately, they may never accept the new you, but others will come to respect you.
Work on listening, be careful with your word, and try to make sure they understand what you are saying. If the words aren't right, the other person may not understand.
I am sure you will succeed and improve. See some of our other articles in our site that will help you become a champion.
Froze up when speaking to a guy in class
September 30, 2005
Hi, imma a college student
well this is my first year, in high school i was extremely shy and quiet. well im sorta of that way, but after taking a public speaking class, i actually started liking to share my ideas in front of the class. well last year there was this one guy i was interested in and everytime he got close i got extremely nervouse, my heart started racing, i felt hot in the face, and almost like i wanted to hide ? Once he spoke to me, and i was soo nervouse i just walked by, wasnt be rude i just was scared . Why i dont know. why does this happen? well im more comfortable with myself, but i just dont know how to make conversations because i want to get to know a lot of ppl. but dont know where to start, and im afraid if i just walk up and say hi. they'll think im crazy. also another thing is that im very soft spoken and teachers and family are always telling me to speak up. How do I solve these problems?
Brittney - USA (8353)
It is a strange phenomenon where people can be confident in front of a group but yet get nervous when dealing with certain people on a personal level. You are not alone, because a number of movie and TV stars suffer from the same problem. Some people are confident until they must speak with their boss at work, and then they stutter and stammer.
You've overcome the fear of speaking to a group, and now you need to apply that to speaking to special people. The way to do that is to first be able to strike up a conversation with other people. Observe to get an idea of what the person is interested in. Then say something of common interest. Often asking for information or help is a good ice-breaker.
You can't just walk up to someone and say, "Hi," because you need something else to say and a reason for talking. You might say, "Hi. Weren't you in my speech class last semester?" or "Say, could I borrow a pencil?" or "How did you do on that test?"
Once you get past the first question, think of something to ask about the other person's interest. Your goal is to make him to start talking about his interests. That also takes a lot of the burden off of you.
But I know how you feel. It is really tough to go up to someone of interest and even say a few words. Your heart is beating so fast and loud that it is tough to talk. But if you are asking for information or such, it is not like it is a big thing, so there is not the pressure.
In any conversation, try to get the other person to talk about him- or herself. People like to do that. And a shy person usually does not like to talk about herself unless she really knows the person. That will come later.
Also, concerning speaking so softly in class: remind yourself to open your mouth and speak clearly. That will improve your volume without any effort. You want people to understand you.
I hope these ideas help and you will have confidence in speaking to this guy and to many others.
Don't know how talk to my partner
May 13, 2005
please i don't know how talk to my partner pls help me
ann - USA (6957)
The biggest part of communcating is listening and observing. When your partner speaks, listen and pay attention to what is said, as well as to watch for body language and emotions. Then when you answer, you can speak on the same subject with rapport. This will help you get in tune and be able to tell the things you want to say, provided your partner is also willing to listen.
Note that it takes practice and patience, but it is worth the effort to concentrate on the listening part before the talking part.
Term for reading eyes
May 1, 2005
I have heard of this theory before and I am almost sure it had a name. I just cannot recall what it was. This is very interesting to me. Could you please name this theory for me? Thanks you.
Allison - USA (6838)
It is also called "accessing cues" but I am also sure there is a more technical term for the process. Unfortunately, I don't have the term available.
Keeping open mind toward other people
March 20, 2005
THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP BUT THERE IS ANOTHER THING I WOULD LIKE TO ASK PLEASE I TRY TO KEEP AN OPEN MIND IN MY JUDGEMENTS TOWARDS PEOPLE I PREY THEY WOULD DO THE SAME FOR ME.ITS NOT WHATS OUTSIDE WHAT COUNTS ITS INSIDE WHAT TYPE OF TEMPREMENT A PERSON IS (KIND NATURED)IS USUALLY BEST BUT I HAVE'NT FOUND ANY ONE LIKE ME,UNTIL TODAY SOME ONE SAID TO ME GIVE ME A POUND I DIDNT WANT TO GIVE IT AWAY I EARNT IT I WASNT BEING GREEDY ,GOD PROVIDED HIM WITH ARMS AND LEGS AS HE DID ME . I DONT HAVE ALOT OF MONEY WHAT I EARN I WORK HARD FOR DOING CHORES AND THEN HIS FRIEND NEXT TO HIM SAID LEAVE HIM ALONE THE BOY STOPPED PESTERING ME AND I REALISED THAT EVEN THOUGH HE LOOKED LIKE ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO WOULD USUALLY ROB ME HE WAS'NT
HE WAS ACTUALLY A GOOD PERSON INSIDE
IS THIS WAY OF THINKING CORRECT OR FALSE ?
MATTHEW - USA (6400)
It is good to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and not judge others too fast. I always try to think of other people as good. It is often surprizing to find a person who you judge really has a lot of offer and is better than you think. Still, you must be aware there are some who do not have good intentions. But it is better to think good of people than bad.
Wants job in communication
February 26, 2005
I have never been in course of Communication, but i I am strongly interesting on this course.
I am writting my application in order to get a job which in charge on the " communication task" and the orphanage NGO, I according my letter I included a few question below:
1. I have never successing in Communication taks, but if i have a chance to get this function, so, what shold do I do for the begining?
2. Can you please advise me some recommendation that are usefull for the communication task?
3. The communication mean " external contact" or it just providing report to the supervision ?
looking forward to hear your answer
JAN - Cambodia (6134)
Communication is talking or writing to other people. A company may want someone to communicate to customers or to the newspapers, usually in the form of a letter. An external contact to the orphage could be someone wanting to adopt, government officials, or physicians to check on the children.
It is important to make sure your communication is clear and not confusing. It must be what your supervisor wants you to communicate to the outsiders. Often an organization will have official forms and methods they want to use.
I hope that helps you. Best wishes in this job.
Frequency components present in signal
February 18, 2005
it was a great time to visit this site .luckily by gods grace i got a correct site for my mentality.
my question is:
" what is the difference between frequency components present in the signal to that of a frequency of a signal".please send the answer to this question as early as possible because i am struggling to get throughthis doubt even though it is a basic point.
naveen - india (6008)
The frequency of a signal is just one component. Others are amplitude, speed or velocity, and wavelength. Phase is sometimes included, when comparing signals.
Engineer wants to communicate better
July 15, 2004
I am an Indian, also i am engineer in electronics and communication. One of my weakness is poor communication.i hope you can help me to improve this
Mohammed - India (3757)
The first part of communication is carefully watching and listening to find out what the other person wants to know. Technical people often have problems expressing information to the non-technical. It is an art to take a technical project and simplify it so others can understand. In fact, it often takes so much work that the typical engineer will give up.
This problem can be worse if there is a difference in language or dialect. One solution is written communication, provided it is done carefully and not in haste.
Left or right?
June 29, 2004
when you use the term, looks to the left or to the right, is that to the persons right/left, or to our right/left?
Michael - UK (3652)
When looking at a person, the eyes will move to your left or right.
Wants people to listen
June 9, 2004
I got 79% average on my report card, but I need a lot of improvement at every subject. I want to be excellent, but i'm not good at oral and communications, because my voice is really small, whenever i talk, people don't seem to notice me, and I am very shy when i'm talking, if i say something, and people refuse me, I just go away, not like all of my other classmates, they keep saying things. And I was just passed E.S.L in 2003. september, and when i was having a conversation with people in a group, other people start talking about these stuff and other stuff that are very popular in our region. But I can't think of a topic to get talking to them, when they are talking about those singers, all the perspectives about them, I don't know what to say and whenever i was talking, people don't seem to really interest in what I am talking. And I really want to improve my oral and communication skills.
Caitlin - Canada (3514)
Communications is expressing your thoughts verbally or in writing. When English is a second language, it is more difficult to do than in your native tongue. But it is an important skill to perfect.
A public speaker must first get the attention of the audience and then their interest before they will really listen. The same is true in speaking to a class or in conversation in a group. Someone with a booming voice can get attention easily, and people may listen even if he is not that interesting.
Also, the impression people toward a person can influence whether or not they listen. If people think you are shy, they tend not to pay attention.
This makes it difficult to become part of the group. But it is not impossible. You must learn to be a good listener and be able to ask good questions that will get others to talk about their interest. People like to talk about things in which they are interested.
A person with a soft voice who is trying to get in on a conversation must wait until the right moment to say something, otherwise the people with the loud voices will get the attention. A good thing to try is to ask a question about what they are talking. For example, if they are talking about their favorite singer, you can say, "May I ask you a question?" Then wait until the person gives you his or her attention. Then say something like, "Why do you like (singer) better than (other singer)?" This will let the other person answer you and is a start for getting into the conversation.
Until you find people with the same interests as you have, you will need to listen and ask good questions about what they like, in order to be able to join in. Listening will also give you knowledge about their subject so that you can talk intelligently about it.
By improving your communcation skills, I am sure your grades will go up and soon you will be a champion in your classes. Best wishes in school, and let me know how things work out.
How to communicate if we cannot talk?
May 5, 2004
how to communicate if we cannot talk ? how to tell them what are we talking about when my pals do not know anything? (i need this as soon as possible)
jennifer - singapore (3233)
Deaf people communicate with sign language, animals communicate with body language and even odors. If someone is ignorant or retarted, it may be very difficult to communicate, depending on their lack of knowledge.
Wants to improve communication skills
March 4, 2004
Dear Sir / Madam,
I have visited your website which is very useful. I would like to improve my communication skills - the field which I feel is very important in our day-to-day life.
Kindly guide me thro ur online lessons.
Anticipating your positive mail.
G.Mani - India (2600)
Careful listening is important in communication. People appreciate someone who will listen rather than something who wants to talk all the time. Also, speak clearly, in case the other person has problems hearing.
Best wishes in your efforts.
Disadvantages of non-verbal communication
February 18, 2004
i will like you to help me out answering these questions.
1.what are the advantages and disadvantages of non-verbal communication.
2.what are the advantages and disadvantages of the internet.
- USA (2439)
Non-verbal information can easily be misunderstood and is limited in scope. But it also can add subtle nuances to what is being said. Also non-verbal communication can be done without speaking.
The internet is a great source of information. But you really get express feelings in only written communication.
How can I convince other people?
January 24, 2004
how can i convince other people?
preeti - India (2083)
Try to find out what the other person likes and wants. This will help you convince the person as to what you want.
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