by Ron Kurtus
Readers have sent in a total of 112 comments and questions on Life issues. They are listed according to date.
You can read them to further your understanding of the subject.
|How does a positive attitude result in success?||Satisfying Life||Uganda|
|Sometimes I feel lazy and not motivated||Be Anxious to Get Up||Zambia|
|What is success in your opinion?||Satisfying Life||Pakistan|
|Try to be social but find it difficult to interact||Satisfying Life||Nigeria|
|I am a thief and an orphan||General||India|
|I like to sleep late||Be Anxious to Get Up||Cameroon|
|I feel like I am in a rut||Attitude||USA|
|How I can win the hearts of others?||Satisfying Life||Pakistan|
|How can one become reborn in hope?||Ritual||USA|
|Should I be limited to only three goals?||Designing Your Day||USA|
|Wondering if there is something better in life||Be Anxious to Get Up||USA|
|Does hanging around affect your mental growth?||Intellect||Britiain|
|How do I start a successful business?||Satisfying Life||Kenya|
|How valid is the Toronto Quality of Life concept?||Toronto Model||UK|
|Thinking of starting own business to imrpove my life||Satisfying Life||Kenya|
How does a positive attitude result in success?
June 4, 2009
Can you please elaborate on how positive attitude transforms into success? Is it because when the success finally comes, you have arleady visualized in your head how you are going to act?
Brian - Uganda (17853)
To a degree you are correct and that a positive attitude allows you to visualize the outcome. With a positive attitude, you are accepting the possibilities of what you can achieve. A person with a negative attitude can often feel the he is unable to achieve the goal or that things just won't work out the way he wants.
Instead of thinking of success as an end in itself, such as becoming wealthy, you think in terms of becoming successful. That means being able to achieve your goals and being happy about the results.
Sometimes I feel lazy and not motivated
May 6, 2009
When ever i plan to do something constructive sometimes i just fail to do becomes i feel lazy or dnt jst feel motivated do it, so i dont how u can help me. Thank you.
Chilaizya - Zambia (17709)
Doing something constructive is well-meaning, but it also may seem like work to you. The starting point must be to visualize the reward or benefit you will get from doing some task.
If you knew you would get a lot of money or something you always wanted, I am sure you would be motivated to do something that was even difficult.
If you wanted to fix a broken lamp so that you would have light at night, you might be motivated to do it. But if you didn't care if there was light nor not, you might just feel lazy and not bother.
Start by being aware of the benefit to you for doing something. Then you can decide whether it is worthwhile or not. But also, dream of the things you would like to get and have. Those dreams give you motivation.
What is success in your opinion?
December 11, 2008
First of all I'll thank you for providing us with such a nice site.
Everybody has his own definition of success.
What is success in your opinion?
Muhammad - Pakistan (16932)
Success is in the eye of the beholder. One may look at a poor person and say how unsuccessful that person is. But if that person is happy and satisfied and feels he has done the best he can, then he is successful in his own eyes.
But also, success is not a destination you want to reach. Success is the journey to what you want to achieve.
Try to be social but find it difficult to interact
November 11, 2008
please, at times if i try to be social i find it difficult to interact with people around me what can i do to get my self out that mess
ejike - Nigeria (16774)
Some people have a natural personality that they enjoy working with people, while others prefer to work alone. Both personalities are acceptable.
The biggest factor in interacting with other people is to take interest in them. find out what likes and dislikes another person has and talk about them. People love to talk about themselves, and will enjoy someone who is willing to listen. Gaining that skill in getting others to open up will allow you to be more social too.
Do not think that you are in a mess. It simply takes the effort to listen and be interested in others that will make you more social.
Best wishes in gaining new friends and improving your social life. I know that you have it in you to succeed.
I am a thief and an orphan
October 23, 2008
i am thief. i am orphan. everyone treat me as a bad person. i want to die
karthik - India (16680)
Of course, no one likes a person who steals from them. Being a thief is not the way to get people to like you. Instead, you must think of ways to help others.
Since you are an orphan, you know the importance of having people like you and to be close to you. Instead of wanting to die, try to make a mark in the world by doing things that are good and helpful to others. Some great people started as orphans and thieves, but they had the desire to become known as a good person and worked to that goal.
People treat you as you treat them and how you expect them to treat you. Look to the best in others and yourself, and you will succeed.
I like to sleep late
July 25, 2008
Thanks for all the rich messages on this website. I am just from reading why people get up from bed very early while others feel bored and still others don't want to get up. As for me, i have a job which i love but i like sleeping. so how can you assess that?
Thanks in advance
love - Cameroon (16274)
You are fortunate that you have a job that you love.
Most people need 7 to 8 hours of sleep. Some even need 10 hours of sleep. If you go to bed too late, your body may not have gotten enough rest to get up early in the morning.
Another factor is if you are a morning person or an evening person. Some people are more active in the morning and ready to go right away. But others are more efficient in the evenings. Those people often want to stay up later and get up later.
Determine how many hours of sleep you need to be refreshed. Also determine if you are a morning person or an evening person. In this way, you can adjust your schedule to be the most effective.
I feel like I am in a rut
April 22, 2008
While I answered the questions like a "Champion in Life," the real challenge is in implementing these into my daily life. I feel like I am in a rut, and just to survive is a major ordeal.
David - USA (15782)
A big problem many people have is they get into a situation where there seems to be no joy in their lives. It could be because of a dead-end job, various problems in life, or simply no direction or meaning in life.
Although having a good attitude is important, it is not easy to attain, unless you change other things in your life.
The ideal situation is to be anxious to get out of bed in the morning, because there are activities you want to do.
One good thing to do is to take stock of your situation and your life. Make a list of things you have really enjoyed doing. List things that you are good at. List achievements you have had in your life. These items can give you an idea of where you want to go.
But also list things that you appreciate each day. Often people overlook such things as having a good friend, enjoying a favorite food, or some other item that you normally take for granted. Count your blessings, and appreciate them.
Once you get the great idea of something that you'd really like to do, you can make the move of getting out of the rut and making your life enjoyable.
Look over the other lessons in our Life section for other thoughts that may apply to you. Best wishes on moving in the right direction with your life.
How I can win the hearts of others?
April 19, 2008
How i can win the hearts of others? Also how can i be confident.
Khalid Niaz - Pakistan (15750)
The first thing to do to get others to like you is to take interest in them and what they like to do. This means allowing the other person to talk about himself or herself before telling about yourself.
This takes curiosity and observation. It works both with men and women.
People love to know that someone is interested in them. If you find some common interest to talk about, you can become dear to each other.
Confidence is sureness about being able to do things. The trick is to start small, with easy successes, acknowledge your success, and then build up to more difficult challenges.
Being friendly and having others respond can build up your confidence in dealing with people, provided you start small and build up your abilities.
Hopefully, these ideas will help you win their hearts and gain confidence.
How can one become reborn in hope?
January 17, 2008
Can one who has died in hope ever be reborn into it?
Lynda - USA (15159)
The only reason a person dies in hope or gives up hope is because she has simply run out of ideas of how to cope and move ahead. Often it is because of a loss or many set-backs.
The first thing to do is to reflect on what you have and appreciate it, no matter how little it is. This can open your eyes to the things in life you enjoy and what is really important to you.
Losses and set-backs are unfortunate, but life must go on. If there is something you enjoy and is important to you, move in that direction. Look for positive people who can help or inspire you. Also, seek to help others. This will give you ideas of how to become reborn in hope, as well as increase your motivation to improve things.
"It is not important how many times a person falls down. What is important is how many times he or she gets up."
Should I be limited to only three goals?
December 19, 2007
I'm looking at designing my day later in the evening at home and as silly as this might sound I'm wondering; since I'm limited to 3 goals, should the goals be personal goals that I may do at home, or business goals that I may achieve at work, or a combination of both. I can easily have 3 goals both personally and business related. Does it matter?
Troy - USA (14995)
Often people will make a To-Do list with many items on it. Some people will then prioritize the list according to importance or urgency. Those items not done one day can be added to the list for the next day. This works for some people, but it also can become overwhelming and not very satisfying to many others.
You really aren't limited to three goals. But I've found that picking three major goals or tasks for the day and completing them can give you much more satisfaction, as well as relieve the burden of having this list of items not completed staring you in the face.
It boils down to asking yourself, "What are the three things I really want to accomplish today?" It can be any mix of items, personal or business.
Note that work projects or goals usually are not done in a day. You need to break a project into smaller pieces, so you can pick something you will be able to complete that day. This gives you closure, even if it is just a small part of a large task.
I hope this helps you.
Wondering if there is something better in life
December 19, 2007
I'm 43 years old and this article hit home. Ironically, the last few days, when waking up and about the time my feet hit the floor I can hear my voice in my mind ask out loud "Why are you here?", "What are you doing with your life?", "What makes you get up everyday?", "Is this job taking you where you want to go?" It is an amazing moment of clarity that stirs me at first and then gets quickly clouded by the routine of the day. Maybe it's mid-life crisis but I feel like I'm missing some very important task or goal or direction that I should be heading. I don't want to lose that feeling because it starts to drive my mind to look at the possibilities of the remainder of my life. I have more to offer - I just don't know how or in what capacity.
Troy - USA (14996)
It is not unusual for a person to find that his job is no longer satisfying or fulfilling. Many people realize there is something else they'd rather be doing or that they need a change in direction. And that doesn't necessary happen as a mid-age crisis.
I met a fellow who had a degree in chemistry, but after working in the field for only three years, he realized that he didn't care that much for the job. So he went back to school and got a degree in accounting. He said it is much more satisfying work for him.
Do some soul-searching and looking at the things you really enjoy and have liked to do throughout your life. Make a list of what you don't like about your job, as well as the things you like to do. Are there any jobs where you could be doing things you like to do? Do you know anyone who is doing something you'd like to do?
It is a tough process, because it is going into feelings that have been set in your subconscious. Also, there may be things you love, but there is no way you could make enough money to live on in that field. But just keep looking.
Switching careers is common these days. The big problem is finding that area of work that you really would enjoy.
You don't want to look back when you get to retirement age and feel that you wish you would have made a switch to something else long ago.
Keep looking until you get that inspiration. Best wishes, and let me know how things turn out.
Does hanging around affect your mental growth?
December 17, 2007
Does hanging around with people instead of growing your knowledge affect your mental growth?
Yoram - Britiain (14985)
It depends on who you hang around with and what you talk about and do. Note that many intelligent people and successful businessmen "hang around" or socialize with other successful people as a form of relaxation. Their conversations help their mental growth, and their friendships help their success.
On the other hand, hanging around with people who complain, who have no goals in life, or who only want to talk trash will not only prevent you from growing mentally, but will also drag you down emotionally. A potentially smart person will not gain knowledge or much of anything from hanging around with these people.
Pick your friends wisely.
How do I start a successful business?
November 24, 2007
how do i start a successful business?
wilfred - Kenya (14836)
First, look at what you are really interested in. Also consider your skills and what you are good at. This can determine the area for the business.
Then, look around at what others are doing in the area of business. Try to get a good idea of something you can provide that others want and need and that you would enjoy providing them. This could be products or services. Also talk to people who own various businesses around your community to get pointers from them, as well as to see about legal requirements and local ordinances you may have to consider.
Once you have a great idea that excites you with its potential, you can plan how you will set up the business, where it will be located, how you will advertise and let others know about your business, and how much money it will cost to get started.
Some people have enough money to start a small business, renting a place to have a store and buying a small amount of product to sell. Others have bigger plans and seek funding from investors. But note that investors now own part of the business.
Finally, start your business on a trial basis. You can them determine if it is a good idea and make adjustments as needed.
I hope this helps. Best wishes in starting a successful business.
How valid is the Toronto Quality of Life concept?
October 16, 2007
i wanted to know how reliable and valid the Toronto Quality of Life questionnaire is?
in addition can it be used on Brain Injury patients?
trina - UK (14555)
The U. of Toronto Quality of Life concept seems like a good approach. See: http://www.utoronto.ca/qol/concepts.htm. They had planned on having a scoring system for it, but have not done much with it for several years. It might be worth contacting their Centre for Health Promotion from http://www.utoronto.ca/chp/ContactUs.htm to see if their concepts will fit your needs.
Thinking of starting own business to imrpove my life
October 10, 2007
hallo am mike from kenya working as a driver,am 27yrs n i sometimes feel frustated in life wondering what life has to offer.i think of starting my own small business but i fear quiting my job cause ive no other source of income.ive tried reading inspiration books but they dont seem to change me.what can i do to raise up and become someone in the society and change the lives of so many people like me?please help
Michael - Kenya (14512)
First of all, you need to consider what type of things you really enjoy doing. Also, look at the special skills or talents you have. What are you good at? Often people enjoy doing things they are good at. Your talents and your dreams are the starting point. Write down your goals and look at those goals every day.
Take advantage of your job as a driver. Talk to people and observe. If you can find some products or services that people want and that fit in with your skills, you may be able to get a great idea for a business to start. There has to be a need for something that you can provide. Knowing people and what they want is important. But also knowing people that can help you is just as important.
Good businesses go on the philosophy of helping people to get what they want and need. With the attitude of helping people, you can succeed.
Unless you have been able to save up enough money to live on for 6 months, it is difficult to quit your job to start a new business. Many start on a part-time basis, keeping their regular job until they get established. Talk to people who own small businesses and ask them how they got started. You can learn a lot from them.
Reading for education about running a business and about success is good, but you also need to go out and do things. Talk to people and learn from them. Try things. If something does not work, learn from it and try something else.
The fact that you want to advance yourself is the first big step. Keep moving in the positive direction, and I know you will succeed.
Best wishes in your efforts.
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