by Ron Kurtus
Readers have sent in a total of 374 comments and questions on Speaking issues. They are listed according to date.
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|Starts to speak too fast in presentation||Fear||Kenya|
|I become nervous and anxious when speaking||Champion||USA|
|Speech to introduce my boyfriend to my family||Champion||Kenya|
|Afraid to read in front of three people||Fear||USA|
|I want to gain confidence in speaking||General||Kenya|
|Teaching children not to fear speaking to a group||Champion||Uganda|
|How can feeling like a champion be extended?||Champion||Ghana|
|Are there any schools in the Charlotte NC area?||General||USA|
|Overcoming fear of speaking||Fear||Pakistan|
|Keep me informed about speaking||Goals||South Sudan|
|How can I create my own audience?||Ways Speakers Make Money||Nigeria|
|I am very afraid of speaking in public||Fear||Nigeria|
|I have an exam tomorow in public speaking||General||Morocco|
|Project questions on public speaking||General||USA|
|What is the cost of your program?||Goals||Anguilla B.W.I|
Starts to speak too fast in presentation
September 29, 2010
How is it that any time i stand before a classroom to do a group presentation,all the point i have seem to vanish-i speak faster only to be through in a short time, yet i was prepared to explain everything. i just want people to understand every single point that i give.
millicent - Kenya (20457)
When you are going to give it a presentation to the class, you should limits your material to from three to five major points. Write down a very short sentence on each of those points on a card that you can use for reference. In this way, you are sure to cover the topics of interest, without presenting too much information or without forgetting a major point.
There is nothing wrong with having a few cards or notes to refer to when giving a talk, as long as you are not reading things word-for-word.
As a reminder, right at the top of your note card "Speak slowly and clearly." This will help to keep you from speaking too fast.
I hope these ideas help in improving your presentation skills. Best wishes on doing a great job next time.
I become nervous and anxious when speaking
September 19, 2010
Hi there there is a question that is about several years in my mind and that question is ' when I want to give a presentation or lecture in front of other people I become nervous an anxious and my face become red and my face produces sweat and I think as I think I act I mean there is a thought in my mind that make me shy and not show my best in public or with my peers . I always think about this that how to be the best and not to be stressed out or nervous in front of others faces but when I leave on those situations I ruin and I become angry . I am a college student who studies English when in the class I want to speak I can't because I am afraid or when I want to have ralationship with girls I can't and my general question is how to overcome fear and anxiety and become a champion social person you know if you don't have a good relationship you can't have a good time in your life and i was wandering if you could help me and tell what to do .
Sadegh - USA (20406)
First of all, if you are going to give a presentation or lecture in front of other people, you need to practice it several times before the formal presentation. Ideally, you can give your talk at the least once before an audience of friends or relatives. This is very similar to the rehearsal an actor in a play or a musician does before a performance.
Do not think in terms of trying to impress the audience with your knowledge. Instead think of trying to communicate clearly to them. If you stumble over the pronunciation of an English word, do not be afraid to pause and correct yourself. You can even make a joke about the difficulty of that word. The audience will understand.
Realize that those in your class are friendly and want you to succeed. We are on your side, because many of them health problems speaking to a group too.
You want to have some communication with your audience. Asking them for feedback is a good technique, such as: "How many of you are familiar with...?" Then get a show of hands.
In a similar way, you can start a good conversation with a girl by asking a friendly question about her, like: "What classes are you taking?" Then follow-up with, "Do you like those classes?" showing interest in what a girl likes is the best way to gain rapport with her.
I hope these ideas to help and that you will become a champion speaker and have good relationships with girls.
Speech to introduce my boyfriend to my family
September 17, 2010
Hallo,my question is can u help me with a speech when introducing my boyfriend ty my family?
Gladys - Kenya (20392)
You don't want to make your speech too complex or long. You just want to make it a friendly introduction. An example is:
"Everybody. I want to introduce my boyfriend, (his name), to you. He is from (place) and is working on (job or school studies)."
Then go around and introduce him to your family, starting with your father and mother, and then going around to the others. In this way, he gets to know their names to get familiar with them.
I am sure that he is just as nervous as you are, so a simply, friendly introduction like this will break the tension and allow others to ask him questions, if they wish.
Best wishes on a good introduction.
Afraid to read in front of three people
September 8, 2010
my problem is reading in front of people or answering questions in front of people.even 3 people.i start shaking and my heart starts beating faster and faster.all your methods wont work.is there some kind of medical problem or drugs i can take to relax me.its so bad that i want to quit work.i need real help.
Andrew - USA (20345)
One of the reasons you have such problems is that you may be rushing yourself. And this causes anxiety that makes you want to rush even more.
Before you get up to read to a group, take four deep, slow breaths. Then when you get up in front of the group to read, count to 8 to yourself. This routine should relax you, as well to let everyone know you are in control. If you rush up to read right away, you are not in control of the situation.
When you are answering questions, it is good to repeat the question to make sure you understand it, as well as to give your mind time to think. For example, if the question is: "What is Einstein's Theory?", you can say something like: "What is Einstein's Theory? That is a good question, and I'll try to give a brief answer." If you don't know the answer, simply say: "I'm sorry, but I don't have that answer right now."
Practice these techniques in front of some friends.
Another suggestion is to check into Toastmasters. It is inexpensive and really helps in giving business presentations. For a club in your area, check:
Best wishes in improving your skills in speaking in front of groups.
I want to gain confidence in speaking
August 2, 2010
I want to gain confidence in speech and talking in public
Francis - Kenya (20174)
You have to prepare something of interest to say to your audience. Then you practice the speech many times before friends in order to build up your confidence and make sure you remember the material.
Finally, the more you speak to groups--big or small--the better you get in speaking. Do it as often as you can.
Go through our lessons for other pointers, as well as reading the Feedback answers.
Teaching children not to fear speaking to a group
July 31, 2010
To school for champions
1.What causes fear of making a speech.
2. How come others don't fear speaking in public.
3. How can i teach my children not fear speaking in public.
Justine - Uganda (20167)
People have the fear of speaking to a group because they are afraid they may make a mistake or forget something and then look foolish. No one wants to look foolish to others.
Everyone gets nervous before speaking. However, the speakers who are well prepared, who have practiced giving their speech many times, and who have a "safety net" such as notes to refer to if they forget something, usually have little or no fear.
The more your children get opportunities to speak to groups--whether in school or in other activities--the less likely they will be afraid.
See out lesson on Fear of Speaking at:
How can feeling like a champion be extended?
July 26, 2010
finding myself doing almost all the wonderful talking makes me feel so good. how can this be extended to becoming a marriage counselor? thank you.
Araba Eduafoah - Ghana (20127)
A marriage counselor is dealing with people who have problems that must be resolved. Often the issue is a lack of communication, where there are misunderstandings between the two people. They have to realize that the other person is not bad, but that they may not be communicating properly.
If they resolve their differences and get to better understanding, both of the couple will feel better about themselves, as champions within their marriage. And of course, you will feel good to help this couple save their marriage.
Are there any schools in the Charlotte NC area?
July 2, 2010
Are there any schools in the Charlotte NC area?
- USA (20007)
If you are looking for schools that offer public speaking classes, many colleges and adult education schools have that type of class available.
However, a good choice is to look into Toastmasters, which meets once a week and allows you to learn speaking skills, as well as to practice your speaking in front of a supportive audience.
There are 40 Toastmasters clubs in the Charlotte, NC area. Go to:
or start from http://reports.toastmasters.org/findaclub/ and go through the menu system.
You can visit a meeting to check it out, with no obligation.
Overcoming fear of speaking
June 21, 2010
how to get free of fear before going to stage for presentation?
- Pakistan (19941)
See our lesson on "Overcome the Fear of Speaking to Groups" at:
Keep me informed about speaking
June 21, 2010
please keep me inform
Samuel - South Sudan (19947)
The best thing to do is to check back periodically, since we often add new lessons.
How can I create my own audience?
June 13, 2010
I am interested in public speaking. How can I create my own audience when am not a popular man?
Aigbokhavbolo - Nigeria (19899)
If you have an interesting subject, especially one that will bring value or help to people, you will be able to find places to speak and create an audience.
A good way to learn the skills is through the Toastmasters Club. There are chapters in Abuja, Lagos, Victoria Island and Warri. For the information about the clubs, see:
I am very afraid of speaking in public
June 10, 2010
How can I become very a confident speaker. Currently, I am very afraid of speaking in public
- Nigeria (19880)
The more practice you have in speaking to groups, the more confident you become.
It is important to have a speech that you are interested in and that others will enjoy. That makes speaking much easier. This speech should be between five and 15 minutes in length.
If you live in or near Abuja, Lagos, Victoria Island or Warri, you can attend a Toastmasters Club meeting. Toastmasters is an excellent organization to practice speaking and improve your speaking skills.
For a list of clubs, see:
Best wishes on becoming a confident speaker.
I have an exam tomorow in public speaking
June 7, 2010
i have an exam tomorow in public speaking i ask you to give me the lesson of them plase
middi - Morocco (19858)
You should not wait until the last minute to prepare for a test. Also, you really need to practice speaking and interacting with people in public speaking.
Best wishes in your test.
Project questions on public speaking
May 25, 2010
hi this is andrea again but this time i have the questions i would like you to answer. plz reply A.S.A.P
1) Can you tell me a little bit about yourself?
2) How often do you have to speak publicly?
3) Do you still get nervous before each time?
4) What sort of nervouse symptoms do you have?
5) What do you do to make it through a speach/presentation if you are nervous?
6) Have you ever messed up a big speech? If so, what happened?
7) How can someone overcome his or her shyness when giving a speech?
8) How can someone prepare for a speech?
9) How can a person be a better public speaker?
10)How can i command the audience attention?
11)How do i get the audince on my side?
12)Why do people get this phobia?
13)Why are certain things easier to do in front of people than others?
14)Is there some big secret to public speaking?
Andrea - USA (19789)
Recently, I have not been speaking publicly very often. However, when my new book comes out, I plan to be giving many speeches about it.
Everyone gets a little nervous before speaking. That makes sure you don't relax too much. I try to be well-prepared so that I don't have to worry about forgetting something or really getting nervous. When I was in high school, I would get a lot of saliva in my mouth when I was supposed to speak in front of the class. However, I didn't have this problem when I would sit in a chair and give my speech. The teacher did not like this and thought I was trying to be cute.
One thing to remember is that the audience does not know what you're going to say next or when your speech is going to end. Thus, if I say something out of order or skip a section in my speech, I don't try to correct it, because that would only make things worse. Also, if things would get so bad that my mind went blank, I would simply say, "And that concludes my speech." The audience may not think it was that good of a speech, but they wouldn't know that I had goofed up.
The way to prepare for giving a speech is to first write out the whole speech and then read it out loud, changing any words or sentences that sound awkward. Then it is good to practice giving this speech, while looking in the mirror. In this way, it forces you not to refer to your notes very often. It is also good to record your speech and then play it back to see how you sound. Next, give the speech to friends or family to practice giving it to a live audience. Then you should be ready to give it to a real audience.
A shy person can think of simple conversations with friends as many-speeches. In this way he or she will get more comfortable in public speaking. The more you speak in front of a group, the more comfortable you get and the better you get.
The Toastmasters Club is a very good organization for practicing speeches and getting feedback and the valuations. Usually, people in the club are in the work environment, but sometimes high school students who are serious about public speaking will join a club to improve their skills.
Speaking clearly and confidently, as if you have something important to say is a way to combat the audience attention. Telling some personal experiences, especially about problems or funny things that happened to you is a way to get the audience on your side.
The big reason for fear of speaking is the fear of your mind going blank and that you will look foolish in front of other people. Having some notes to use encase your mind does go blank is a good safety net that can reduce your fears.
The big secret and public speaking is to realize that the audience is anxious to hear what you have to say and to enjoy yourself while giving a speech.
What is the cost of your program?
May 25, 2010
I would like to get information on the cost of your program and the length of time it will take to finish this course
Carmen - Anguilla B.W.I (19796)
Our lessons are meant to help you get started in speaking. There is no charge for them, and it was not a graded course.
You really cannot learn public speaking skills online. You need to be interacting with people and practice speaking to a live audience.
Toastmasters is a good place to learn speaking skills. See if there is a club accessible to you at: http://reports.toastmasters.org/findaclub/
Otherwise, check with your local schools to see if they have speech classes available. Best wishes in your studies.
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